but as I've grown older it's
become apparent that most
people are chickens.
They will do anything possible
to NOT have to tell the truth.
This compulsion to avoid
confrontation only causes
confusion and chaos.
Convoluted communicationonly hurts, never helps.
Instead, why not be honest?
honest, not foolish.
Remember the I Love Lucy
episode where everybody
agreed to tell the truth?
Whatever Lucy and Ethel
thought they spewed out.
And being that literal
can only end in disaster.
Rather than use the truth
as a blunt instrument,
I find sharing
simple, edited facts
helps everyone involved.
her father boarded the Aquitania
to attend his Mother's funeral
in London. Years later, all that
she could recall was the cocktail
party in his suite. Not a hug or
an "I love you", just frivolity.
He never came back.
Then I found this letter.
grandparents never divorced.
Hence his fear of being "busted".
So, after finding this out, I asked myself the question...
What if George had told Ethel the truth?
To the confused eleven year old girl -
"Your Mother and I can't live together."
"This is not your fault but I know it hurts you"
"I have to go away now, but I love you very much."
To the twenty two year old newly wed -
"I never divorced Bessie, it would have upset her too much."
"I share my life with a woman who truly loves me".
I doubt words like this would have made a major difference.
But I can't help but think
they would have made her life better.