Monday, November 11, 2019


Who, what, when, where, why?
The good news is we can all relate. Yet our
challenge is when we assume anything. All
too often my readers reach out to ask "how
did you know?" However I'm not some Long
Island clairvoyant wandering grocery store
aisles channeling long lost secrets. The truth
is few if any of us are all that special. Hence
what you're struggling with, many others are
also. Therefore when I explore an issue, it's
rarely about those who relate to the subject
at hand. Rather it's all about what's in my
head as I sit and write this blog. A melange
of influences making it all about us, not you.

Us versus them
Our collective human experience often ends
up teaching us the same lesson over and over.
Initially I was more than a Pollyanna. Naive
enough to believe that folks naturally wanted
to do the right thing. However over time I've
been proven wrong more times than I care to
admit. The end result being I'm either wise
or jaded - depending on which side of the
problem equation  you're on. Last night a
former co-worker reached out about a hyper
political situation at her firm. One where a
duo had skewed the pay scale in their favor.
All while conducting a clandestine affair!!

Patience makes perfect
Life is unfair. Yet what goes around comes
around. But rarely if/when we'd like it to.
Ultimately doing the right thing pays off
with compounded interest. Requiring the
patience and fortitude to wait for all of the
crap to finally reach a proper conclusion.
So back to the problem at hand. All of the
above may be about my friend. However my
sharing it is in the hope that it can benefit all
of us. Few if any of us are ever alone. Nor
are the challenges confronting us unique to
our situation. People, places, and details aside
everything in life is "been there... done that."

Safety in numbers
Hopefully we learn from our mistakes. Or the
error of another's ways. No wonder somebody
invented group therapy. In the end we find out
that we're really not all that special. And while
said exclusion from exclusivity is sometimes
hard to embrace, it ultimately brings relief.
Which is the reason why I spill my guts on-
line regularly. There is no reason to go it alone.
Help is inevitably on the way as long as one is
willing to share their woes. So instead of doing
a solo act, sing out Louise! Whether via a duet,
quartette, ensemble, or choir. Together we are
better. Which makes life all the more livable.